The
pickle jar as far back
as I can remember sat
on the floor beside
the dresser in my parents'
bedroom. When he got
ready for bed, Dad would
empty his pockets and
toss his coins into
the jar.
As
a small boy I was always
fascinated at the sounds
the coins made as they
were dropped into the
jar. They landed with
a merry jingle when
the jar was almost empty.
Then the tones gradually
muted to a dull thud
as the jar was filled.
I
used to squat on the
floor in front of the
jar and admire the copper
and silver circles that
glinted like a pirate's
treasure when the sun
poured through the bedroom
window. When the jar
was filled, Dad would
sit at the kitchen table
and roll the coins before
taking them to the bank.
Taking
the coins to the bank
was always a big production.
Stacked neatly in a
small cardboard box,
the coins were placed
between Dad and me on
the seat of his old
truck.
Each
and every time, as we
drove to the bank, Dad
would look at me hopefully.
"Those coins are
going to keep you out
of the textile mill,
son. You're going to
do better than me. This
old mill town's not
going to hold you back."
Also,
each and every time,
as he slid the box of
rolled coins across
the counter at the bank
toward the cashier,
he would grin proudly
"These are for
my son's college fund.
He'll never work at
the mill all his life
like me."
We
would always celebrate
each deposit by stopping
for an ice cream cone.
I always got chocolate.
Dad always got vanilla.
When the clerk at the
ice cream parlor handed
Dad his change, he would
show me the few coins
nestled in his palm.
"When we get home,
we'll start filling
the jar again."
He always let me drop
the first coins into
the empty jar. As they
rattled around with
a brief, happy jingle,
we grinned at each other.
"You'll get to
college on pennies,
nickels, dimes and quarters,"
he said. "But you'll
get there. I'll see
to that."
The
years passed, and I
finished college and
took a job in another
town. Once, while visiting
my parents, I used the
phone in their bedroom,
and noticed that the
pickle jar was gone.
It had served its purpose
and had been removed.
A
lump rose in my throat
as I stared at the spot
beside the dresser where
the jar had always stood.
My dad was a man of
few words, and never
lectured me on the values
of determination, perseverance,
and faith.
The
pickle jar had taught
me all these virtues
far more eloquently
than the most flowery
of words could have
done. When I married,
I told my wife Susan
about the significant
part the lowly pickle
jar had played in my
life as a boy. In my
mind, it defined, more
than anything else,
how much my dad had
loved me.
No
matter how rough things
got at home, Dad continued
to doggedly drop his
coins into the jar.
Even the summer when
Dad got laid off from
the mill, and Mama had
to serve dried beans
several times a week,
not a single dime was
taken from the jar.
To
the contrary, as Dad
looked across the table
at me, pouring catsup
over my beans to make
them more palatable,
he became more determined
than ever to make a
way out for me. "When
you finish college,
Son," he told me,
his eyes glistening,
"You'll never have
to eat beans again -
unless you want to."
The
first Christmas after
our daughter Jessica
was born, we spent the
holiday with my parents.
After dinner, Mom and
Dad sat next to each
other on the sofa, taking
turns cuddling their
first grandchild. Jessica
began to whimper softly,
and Susan took her from
Dad's arms.
"She
probably needs to be
changed," she said,
carrying the baby into
my parents' bedroom
to diaper her. When
Susan came back into
the living room, there
was a strange mist in
her eyes.
She handed Jessica back
to Dad before taking
my hand and leading
me into the room. "Look,"
she said softly, her
eyes directing me to
a spot on the floor
beside the dresser.
To my amazement, there,
as if it had never been
removed, stood the old
pickle jar, the bottom
already covered with
coins. I walked over
to the pickle jar, dug
down into my pocket,
and pulled out a fistful
of coins. With a gamut
of emotions choking
me, I dropped the coins
into the jar. I looked
up and saw that Dad,
carrying Jessica, had
slipped quietly into
the room. Our eyes locked,
and I knew he was feeling
the same emotions I
felt. Neither one of
us could speak.
This
truly touched my heart.
I know it has yours
as well. Sometimes we
are so busy adding up
our troubles that we
forget to count our
blessings.
Never
underestimate the power
of your actions. With
one small gesture you
can change a person's
life, for better or
for worse.
God
puts us all in each
other's lives to impact
one another in some
way. Look for God in
others.
The best and most beautiful
things cannot be seen
or touched - they must
be felt with the heart
~ Helen Keller |